Building An Intimate Relationship With God

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No matter where you may be in your faith walk, intimacy with God should always be your desire. Intimacy moves beyond cookie cutter prayers, weekly church attendance, and serving in the media ministry. An intimate relationship with God says Lord, I need to be near you more than I need to fulfill my own wants and desires. James 4:8, one of my favorite scriptures says, “Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you.” Everything about this scripture lets us know that God is waiting for a relationship and that he earnestly desires to be a part of our lives. So how do we live this out? How do we build an actual, consistent relationship with God? When I think of the ultimate relationship between God and man, I look no further than David. Yes, the same David that sought after Bathsheba and had her husband killed when he thought he knew something. David was a little sketchy (to say the least) and he was far from perfect but in the book of Acts, he’s called a man after God’s own heart—that’s a heavy title. I believe that there is so much that we can learn from David and the intimate relationship that he shared with God. The way that he approached God in prayer is so remarkable and he provides the ultimate recipe to a close-knit relationship with our Creator. Here it is:

Pray all day, all the time

I love to wake up in the morning and seek God but I promise you, this is not the only time that I pray during the day. My day is filled with prayer—both long and short prayers. David prayed at any given moment and he stopped to seek God in the moments where he was the weakest. Take the time to speak to God when you need him. Just as we would call up our best friends when we need to vent or cry, God wants this same type of relationship. If you’re having a moment where you need peace, talk to him. If you’re feeling weak, ask him for strength. Sometimes our shortest prayers prayed in the moment where we are in the most desperate need are the most effective.

Worship him and express your need for him

One of the things that I love about my best friends is that we aren’t shy about giving compliments. We constantly affirm one another and we uplift each other all the time. God doesn’t need to be affirmed because he is the Great I Am and whether we speak it or not, he is good, but that doesn’t mean that he doesn’t like to hear it. Spend time worshipping God, either through song or just simple statements of adoration. Worship brings perspective. When we worship we decrease and we edify God. Through worship, we let God know that we need him; that we are nothing without him. David constantly worshipped. Before he approached God in prayer about anything (and even after) he expressed his need for God and let him know how great he really is.

Trust that God is your everything

Believing that God can take care of any and everything that may come to bring you harm is the foundation of an intimate relationship with him. It is this belief that brings us into dependency. Ultimately, believing in your heart that God can provide everything that you need is trusting that everything that he’s said in his word is true. He’s a comforter, he’s a confidant, he’s a protector, a provider, he’s a judge, and he is our guide. David looked to God for literally everything. He prayed about the gossipers and liars and that spoke against him, he prayed when he was afraid for his safety, he even prayed when he knew was wrong to ask for mercy and deliverance. Practice speaking to God about even the small things that happen in your life.

Show endless gratitude and give credit where credit is due

In any close relationship, the simple gesture of just saying ‘thank you’ is so important. God has done and will continue to do more for us than anyone else in our lives and it’s important that we always show gratitude. David did this so well. When God brought him peace, he thanked him and acknowledged that it came from him. When he rescued him from his enemies, he thanked God through his praise and gave him all the credit for his safety. The more that we acknowledge that God is working in our lives and the more that we remain cognizant of his power, the deeper we fall into relationship with him.

Read your Bible daily

Last but certainly not least, in order to find true, intimate relationship with Christ you need to read the word. The Bible gives us clear instruction on how to walk in righteousness, how to deal with temptation, and we learn about the life, death, and resurrection of our Savior.  It is the doctrine of our faith and without it, we lack foundation. If you would like to know more about the importance of the reading your Bible, you can check out this post on how reading my Bible changed my life or this one on the Bible as our perfect guide. And if you’re new to reading your Bible and want to find out how to get the most out of your bible study, you can check out this post where I share my 3-step method.

An intimate relationship with God doesn’t build itself. It takes trust, love, and a commitment to draw near to him with the expectation that he will do the same. And if necessary, it requires for you to move a few things that are probably in the way. Is there anything getting in the way of your time with God? If so, find a way to remove it and seek God with all of your heart—he will never turn you away. So many of us know about God and the claims that people have made about him but to intimately and personally know him…that is the goal. God bless.

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  1. Oh my!!! The way God spoke through you in this post is so amazing!!! 🙌🏾 May God continue to strengthen you and pour back into you as you pour out love and wisdom with others!

    1. Hi Ashleigh!
      I’m so glad that this post spoke to you! It’s incredible what God will say when you volunteer to be his mouthpiece. I couldn’t take credit if I wanted to lol. Thank you for that amazing prayer, Sis, and thanks so much for reading. God bless!

      Ashley C.

    1. Hi Melchee!
      Thanks so much for reading! I’m glad that you enjoyed this post. It is always my prayer that the Holy Spirit is evident in everything that I write so thank you for your words of encouragement. I really appreciate you! God bless.
      Ashley C.

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