In today’s society, oversharing and saying exactly what you feel at the exact moment that you feel it has become the norm. I’m all for a good emotional cleanse and for keeping it real but from a Christian standpoint, there are times where we should speak up and times where we should probably have a seat. Whether you’re facing confrontation, trying to decide whether or not to post something on social media, or just deciding to pass on something that you’ve heard, it’s always a good idea to stop and consider whether or not what you have to say is really worth saying. I’ve seen this a thousand times (and I’m sure you have too) but here’s a great, short and sweet but powerful guide to help you think through what you want to say:
T: Is it true?
H: Is it helpful?
I: Is it inspiring?
N: Is it necessary?
K: Is it Kind?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being opinionated or passionate. As a matter of fact, opinionated and passionate people are the real movers and shakers of the world but even the most powerful people in the world are selective in their words. The majority of the time, it comes down to the way that you say it and not exactly what you are saying. The Bible gives several guidelines as it relates to the way that we say things and I want to share them with you:
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.
Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life; he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.
If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless.
But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth.
Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.
Do you see a man who is hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than for him.
Whoever belittles his neighbor lacks sense, but a man of understanding remains silent.
Whoever covers an offense seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates close friends.
Whoever restrains his words has knowledge, and he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding.
The weight of our words is real and if you’ve ever been a victim of careless words, then you know this to be true. Not only do we risk hurting others but we risk misrepresenting Christ within us. It only takes one careless statement to undo all the spiritual work that you have done in the mind of the person on the receiving end of your words. Add these verses to your spiritual survival kit and always remember to sprinkle every statement with grace.