How To Build Your Confidence And Fight Insecurity

Confidence is one of those traits that we always admire and silently wish that we had more of. When we’re watching our favorite YouTube personalities, reality stars and bloggers, it seems like their level of confidence and self-assurance is so far out of reach but here’s the truth of the matter: confidence is a choice. Just like we choose to have faith and just like we choose whether or not we’re going to have joy in spite of our circumstances, confidence works in the same way. In every situation, we have a choice in whether or not we’re going to approach it with timid uncertainty or bold assurance. Let me start by saying this: confidence is not necessarily the absence of fear or reservations. Confidence is saying no to those thoughts or feelings that may be trying to keep you from moving forward and moving on boldly anyhow.

Confidence, also like faith and happiness, can appear to come and go depending on the source. If your faith is based on your own abilities and if your happiness is dependent upon the outcome of your work day, then you can’t reasonably expect to have true, lasting faith or happiness. But when you allow your faith to be connected to the unlimited capabilities of our Heavenly Father and your happiness to be based on the fact that you have gained eternal life and freedom, unexpected events can’t have the same effect. When you anchor your confidence in Christ and in everything that he says you are, the choice to be confident becomes much easier and your confidence won’t be as easily swayed. It’s much easier to approach a new opportunity believing that you are powerful and created with purpose than to approach it only believing that you’re an average Joe. Find your confidence in who Christ has identified you to be (chosen, royal, a child of the Most High) and not who the world has told you are (average, inadequate, uninfluential). Confidence is just as much knowing who you are as it is believing that you are capable of great things. As you approach difficult situations, whether it be public speaking, trying something new, or just putting yourself out there, remember these things:

You can do anything that your heart desires as long as you put your trust in Christ.

 I can do all things through him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13

Lack of confidence doesn’t come from the Holy Spirit and you CAN move past it.

For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline. 1 Timothy 1:7

God is for you and it doesn’t matter who is not.

What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? Romans 8:31

God knows and understands your fears. He has the power to help you move past them.

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

Humans are just humans. God is bigger and his opinion matters more.

The LORD is with me; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me? Psalm 118:6

God is always with you

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you;  I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10

Listen, there is only you and no one can be “you” better than you! The next time that you feel inadequate or insecure, encourage yourself with these scriptures and choose to be confident. Approach each moment as they come and understand that fear may come but it doesn’t have to stay. Be confident in who you are in Christ, walk with your head high, speak with a bold voice and never forget that you are a daughter of the King. You’ve got this.


What are some of the things that you like to do to boost your confidence?


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    1. Hi Latoya! Thanks so much for reading! I literally have to choose confidence daily lol. God bless you, Sis.

      Ashley C.

  1. AMAZING!!! I love the scriptures as reference to tie in everything. More to add to my toolkit. This was an amazing read. I’m so glad that the Lord is using you in a beautiful way to encourage his daughters.

    1. Hi, Sis!
      Thank you and as always, thank you so much for taking the time to read this blog post! I’m so humbled and grateful that God has entrusted me with this opportunity and I’m extremely grateful to have your support. Love you!

      Ashley C.

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